In this week’s podcast, we’re continuing the series This Kid Doesn’t Play! Solutions for Common Problems…Handling Tantrums and Meltdowns in Toddlers with Language Delays.
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, young children with language delays don’t seem to want to play with us. This situation might look like a “behavior” problem, meaning that the child is purposefully choosing not to play with you. That’s not always the case. On this series of shows, I hope I can help you look at these problems from another perspective.
We’ll use this model for helping you address these issues:
- Discussion of the problem
- Similar or related situations
- Possible explanations for why a child is behaving this way – it’s not the same reason for every child!
- Multiple solutions for each problem
Listen to the previous shows in this series:
Today we discussed these common problems:
TANTRUMS AND MELTDOWN
There are important differences between a tantrum and meltdown. My best resource for this information is at understood.org.
After we determine that a child is having a tantrum or meltdown, what should we do? Listen for solutions here:
- Don’t try to “push through.” Address what’s going on with the child – especially with sensory meltdowns. Help the child calm down first. Different problems require different approaches! Listen to the show for an explanation.
- Promptly address any physical needs. Toddlers (and adults!!) don’t participate when they’re hungry, sleepy, sick, and uncomfortable from a wet/dirty diaper. Make them feel better FIRST! Then you can move on and play.
- Redirect or head off tantrums and meltdowns whenever possible with toddlers.
- Simplify the activity if she’s too stressed out.
- Avoid overstimulating the child even more with your words. Keep it short and sweet! Your tone of voice is important too. Listen to the show for specifics!
If you’d like a written resource with this information, I have just the thing for you! This series is based on excerpts from the last chapter of my book Teach Me To Play WITH You. If you’re a therapist, this will be a fantastic tool to share with parents of children who exhibit these kinds of problems in play. If you’re a parent, this information will help you figure out what’s going on with your child and provide real life, practical solutions to help your little one learn to play with you and then, after interaction is better, learn to talk! (P.S. Don’t forget to use your special coupon code for podcast listeners to save $10 when you get the book!)