Mommy Speech Therapy
I wanted to share with you a comment I received earlier this week on this site from a mom who bought Teach Me To Talk – The DVD for her son, and then I want to share what seems to be the common denominator in the dozens of e-mails I’ve received like this in the two short months since the DVD was released.
From Kristen –
“Several weeks ago I came to the conclusion I was going to have to become my son’s speech therapist. He has speech one hour a week which isn’t enough and he doesn’t respond very much to it at all. I was going to have to do something, but what? I began searching for answers and someone had posted a link to your site on a discussion board. Clicking that link was like finding a pot of gold! I read everything you have ever posted, printed it out and then read them again. I ordered your dvd and watched it and watched it and watched it. The way you demonstrated how to do things was difficult for me to emulate at first, I just don?t have that type of personality. MY SON STARTED RESPONDING!!! That made it easier and easier to do. In this short month he has acquired 27 new words! He is no longer frustrated and can tell me what he wants. His behavior is improving as well. His speech therapist is trying to take the credit but we know where the credit truely belongs. Thank you Laura!!
p.s. I don’t get much internet time anymore because my son loves mommy speech therapy!!!”
I nearly wrecked my car when my husband called me on my cell phone during the day between my appointments to read me this comment. I wanted to jump out of my car, stand up, and applaud this mother right there on I-71! And not just because she liked the DVD, but for all of the reasons I’ve listed below. If you’ve read this site for very long at all, you know how much I like a numbered list, so here goes:
1. This mom took matters into her own hands.
She took the leadership role on her child’s therapy team. She saw that things weren’t working, so she rolled up her sleeves, took the bull by the horns, or whatever metaphor you want to use, but she made a decision, and then she got herself in gear. She didn’t just sit back and lament that her son wasn’t making progress. She didn’t call and complain so she could get someone else to see him. She decided that SHE was in charge of her child’s progress, and that SHE needed to make some changes, so she did, and she started with HERSELF!
2. This mom searched for answers.
She didn’t look for one little new idea and stop at that. Did you see what she wrote? She said she read and re-read articles. Then, she printed them out so she could read them again! This was not a little project she tried to fit in between phone calls to friends and “me time.” She made a commitment to her son to learn everything she could about helping him. And she didn’t do it by using her internet time to get on a message board and complain about what was going wrong. She did it by using this information super-highway that we have to learn to do what she didn’t already know.
When reading wasn’t enough, she decided to change her approach. She thought about learning in a different way and bought a new tool to help her SEE what to do and SEE how to do it.
3. This mom didn’t give up when it wasn’t easy.
As other moms have told me, being playful and animated isn’t natural for them. (Just so you know, some days it wasn’t, and sometimes still isn’t, that natural for me either!)
Because this approach was new for her, she didn’t just watch and decide it wasn’t for her. Did you read what she wrote? She watched and watched and watched, and then it happened. She started trying the techniques and low and behold, HER SON STARTED TO RESPOND!
I will tell you this, this scenario happens much more of the time than it doesn’t with the moms I’ve heard from who have bought the DVD and the moms of children I actually see. Using these strategies at home does work. It’s not rocket science, but sometimes it feels this hard when you’re first getting started.
And just like this mom said, the more you do it, the easier it gets. You really can fake it when you don’t feel like it. Believe me, I ought to know about this one! When your head is pounding, and there’s another crisis brewing, and you got very little sleep the night before, you can still MAKE yourself fun and playful, or just appear that way.
Guess what? If you make half an effort, your child will probably meet you half way. Again, take my word for it, because I’ve started the first few minutes of lots of visits in half-way mode and ended up with a whole lot more than that. When your child starts to respond, you will find yourself getting better and better at it. When you get better and better, so does your child. It’s a cycle, but a good one!
4. When language improves, so does everything else.
When a child finally begins to learn to communicate, everyone’s life gets a little easier. Sometimes it gets a lot easier! This mom said that her son’s behavior improved when he started to learn more words and wasn’t as frustrated. Now that’s not to say that you aren’t still going to have those toddler moments, but dealing with a child who can TELL you what he wants is much easier to do than deal with one who can just grunt or cry or whine or SCREAM at the top of his little lungs!
5. When your child begins to improve, the credit belongs to YOU!
This mom was gracious and kind enough to try to give me some of the credit for helping her child, but the truth is, SHE is the one who taught her child to talk. At the end of the day, I hope she takes a good long look in the mirror, smiles back, and says, “THANK YOU – YOU DID GOOD GIRL” – to herself! Her son may not be able to say that to her yet, but one day he will, and she will be the one who deserves the credit.
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